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“Admiring Celebrities Can Help Improve Self Esteem” ?!?

According to a 2008 research study conducted by the University of New York: Buffalo, a ‘parasocial’ , that is, a fake relationship with a celebrity is more beneficial for one’s self esteem than a relationship with someone in that person’s life. According to this, erm…thoroughly conducted experiment of 3 trials on 100 people (this definitely represent all of the world’s population), when someone with low self esteem compares oneself with their ideal self encapsulated in their favorite celebrity, one feels closer to the ideal self, and thus has better self esteem.
Like, WHAT?! There are so many things wrong with this experiment that are practically self explanatory. Not to mention the fact that it is wayyy too subjective to even be considered as passing for realistic. What constitutes low self esteem? What about improved self esteem?
This just sends the wrong message. It is definitely NOT beneficial to compare oneself with something that isn’t…real.

And that’s enough of that!

Check the article out at:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/06/080605150824.htm

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Counting Down the Seconds Until…

Have you ever found yourself so consumed in anticipation of an upcoming event that you totally disregard what happens in the present? You’re probably thinking that I’m going to go off on a tangent about how important it is to appreciate the present, how the “present” is a “gift”…and you’re right! Haha! Actually not really. I just really want May to come, and this school year to be in the past and summer to be here. I mean, who doesn’t? But sometimes (ok, actually most of the time) all I can think about is how much I want time to speed up. Especially in certain classes that just drag on and on and on… I’m trying to “slow down” and smell the flowers…or trash, depending where I’m standing. It’s just annoying to be so excited for something to happen, for it to finally happen, then realize that you wasted days anticipating something that may not have lived up to expectations. But sometimes, the anticipation is what makes what you’re anticipating worthwhile. My point is, life is slow sometimes. But really, when I think about it, 90% of it speeds by, because I’m only waiting for 10% of it to happen. My solution to this problem? Find something to be excited for everyday. Or every 10 minutes, but that might get a little stressful. “The Big Picture” *dun dun dun* is made up of 1000′s of tiny smaller pictures, if you catch my drift. I want to see everything, instead of letting the pace of time catch me off guard.
So that’s all I have to say about that (*cough cough* movie reference)

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What Sunrise? Oh Sorry, I was Distracted.

Have you ever looked up into the sky, just as a hint of sunlight is peaking over the horizon, and said to yourself, “Wow. That’s beautiful. That makes me want to be fully alive. That makes me want to chase my dreams.”
The answer to that semi-rhetorical question is most certainly: no. Probably not even close. Even an optimist, on a bad day, will look at a sunrise and not even acknowledge what he is seeing. It always blows my mind when I see vermillion and vivid orange and magenta colors engulfing the sky. Sunrises make me realize that there’s something bigger than this life out there. That we may have a pretty decent hand of cards, hell, even a royal flush. But maybe the cards weren’t ours to be dealt to in the first place.
Life isn’t supposed to be about seeing a sunrise, but not really seeing it; just letting your eyes skim over the inherent beauty of…each day. Life is supposed to be about truly acknowledging the ambient color of life, the undeniable aesthetic, physical, emotional, spiritual turmoil and appeal of each day. We have to open our eyes to the colors. We have to realize that every sunrise is a second chance. You could pull put of your driveway, collide with a rouge truck and be killed in a split second.
But we forget this so easily. We lose ourselves in the chaos of society. Instead of talking about Madonna’s exquisite performance seducing men half her age during the halftime show last night, maybe you should take a moment to appreciate the beauty of every second we have. Because as each second passes, with each breath we take, we’re given a second chance.

We lose ourselves when we lose sight of true beauty, and the true miracle of every vermillion sunrise.
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The Imaginary War that Every Girl Fights

So, what is beauty anyways? I mean, what does it even mean? The skinniest? Tannest? Most prone to having no hair and melanoma by 50? The world tells us that beauty is perfection. The perfect hair. Whitest teeth. Smallest waistline. Poreless skin. That all sounds super duper attractive right? But the funny thing is, even Barbie has insecurities. And no, I am not talking about the plastic doll, I’m talking about THAT girl. The one who you secretly wish you look like, but are too composed to admit it. She probably wishes she looks like her best friend, who wishes she looks like Barbie. But the best friend wishes she looks like her other friend, who doesn’t even think Barbie is “beautiful”. See the problem here? Girls (and women!) are fighting a war that doesn’t even exist. What’s the point of comparing yourself to an image of perfection if “Ms.Perfect” herself feels ugly? The world tells us that beauty is what we can’t have. What we will never be. Sure, we can get plastic surgery, bleach our hair and teeth, and buy flattering dresses, but there will always be something that “will make us more beautiful”. So what’s the point? Why not just love ourselves, because what beauty is really, is just you. Or me. Or that girl who lives in India. Or wherever. All said and done, it’s easier said than done. Don’t get me wrong, I love dressing up and feeling pretty, but sometimes you just have to ask yourself a pretty simple question.
What is beauty to you?

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Let’s Break the Ice

So here’s the thing. I want to change the world. Not end world hunger, bring world peace, or anything, but you know, the ol’ one-person-one-day at a time kind of deal. I mean, I’d be happy with helping one person. Changing that one person’s life. Turning it around for the better. But I guess, most of the time, one can’t really see all the effects that they have on people. It’s the iceberg effect- only 10% of what is there is seen, the other 90% is just chillin’ there (pun intended) under the surface of some frigid waters. But, I mean, think about it (Whoever you are) ! What if one person changed one person’s life, and then that person changed another person’s life, and then, and then..it’s like this one massive domino effect! Let’s just hope some giant little kid doesn’t flick over the dominoes (too far, too far). But anyways, perception is so…massive. We perceive so much. How tall we are. That crack in the sidewalk. How cool we are. How hungry we are. How…you get the point. So I want to change a perception at a time.

And I’m going to start with beauty.

So, here I am blogging, even though I’m pretty sure out of the billions of people who use the internet, no one will see it. Ha. Haha. Hahaha.  Oh well, because I guess that’s the beauty of blogging. I think no one can see what I write, but then suddenly, someone will leave a really profound and intuitive response to one of my posts. (Hasn’t happened yet, but I’m still waiting!) Anywho, so that’s the end of this post. (Admirable conclusion sentence, I know).

Andrea  :)

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